Never even caught her name...

"Don't have too many friends, Winnie. Just be friends with yourself, and your family. That's all you need. When you have too many friends, you wear too many different masks, and then you lose yourself. Friends get in the way, and you cannot focus on what you are. When something happens to you, if you spend all your time telling each friend the same story, what part of the story do you keep for yourself? You give it all away. Don't give it all away. Don't lose yourself. Don't be a clown for other people. Don't lose yourself, winnie. Be strong, that's how mommy raised you, to be strong. Be strong Winnie..."

 

 

"Don't be a follower, and don't be a wallflower. No one likes a wallflower. If you're at a dance, dance. If someone asks you to do something, don't be the shy girl who always says 'no' (gesture of someone shyly refusing with hand up in front of face), no one likes that type of girl. I hate that type of stupid girl.And that type of man is the worst. A man has to be a man, if they have kin-tama (gesture to male testicles). A man who cannot stand up, is not a man. Don't be with a loser man, winnie. Find a man who has (hand gesture with palm facing up, like she is holding a big bag of gold) confidence, please. No follower man. That is the worst. A man who is always hazukashi about everything, who always puts his head down. Waaaa~I hate that type of man"

 

... 

"Don't ever bow your head down for a man. Men are nothing, winnie. They think because the have that (phallic gesture) that they are something. They are nothing, Winnie. Men always tried to compete with me, winnie. They always try to beat me, but I (holding fist up) beat them up, because mommy has atama (pointing to head) Their chisai mind--so small. Men are baka..they are fool." 

 

... 

"Being a mother, is the best thing. I always tell people, my babies are the best. I would have 10 million babies if they could come out like you and Reimi. My children are everything. I never regret becoming your mother. When people talk about their own children, I don't care, because my children are the best. Or when people show me pictures of their children, i just smile. But my babies are the cutest, and the best. Everyday I bought new books for you guys and I would read and spend time. I loved being your mother. It is the best thing in my life. I don't know if I'm a good mother, but I tried my best."

 

 

 "you and Reimi are the best because your daddy was smart, and your mommy is, if you think, smart too. One plus one equals two, you have two excellent sources inside of you, dont forget that. Mommy is smart and Daddy is smart, so don't be a fool..." 

 

...   I think of the things you've said, and think about how much they have shaped me as a person, and now, as a mother. Sometimes I really feel like a loser, no matter how much I tell myself I'm not one. Sometimes I really feel tired and defeated. Sometimes i really feel... 

 

Sometimes, 

Winnie

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